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You are smart, fun, and successful. Men like being around you. Women like being around you. Even those grumpy looking cats tend to run up to you and start purring when you cross their path. Yet, you still remain single, online, and endlessly waiting for a man to sweep you off your feet as you watch your friends settle into happy relationships.
Well don’t worry. You’re not cursed. And like most women on dating sites, you have more than enough potential to land a quality man. In all likelihood, it’s not that there is something wrong with you, it’s simply a matter of adjusting your approach to online dating. Online dating is a unique animal, unlike any other medium of meeting people. If you want to meet the right kind of men, then you need to first and foremost equip yourself with the right knowledge. In this article I will be discussing five reasons why you may be having trouble landing a quality man online, so take notes!
1. Your Photo Gallery is Not Telling the Right Story
If you are ever going to attract a quality man online, you must understand that men are extremely visual when it comes to attraction. The perfect photo gallery consists of three critical components:
1. It highlights your best external features in ways that are classy and appealing to men.
2. It tells a visual story about your life, passions, and hobbies, the same way the written section of your profile does.
3. It avoids any red flags that are off-putting to men. These include over-sexualized pictures, an abundance of selfies, photos that are unattractive, etc.
You don’t have to be conventionally beautiful. But you do need to reveal your best self and tell the right story. If you don’t get this perfect, you will never optimize your online success.
2. You Are Not an Active Participant
The biggest mistake women make is sitting back and waiting for quality men to message them. In theory, this sounds nice, simple, and traditional. But in reality, the highest quality guys are already receiving more messages than they could handle from other women online. So instead of performing searches that would help them to find you, they are mainly just responding to the messages that come their way first. Online dating is one big competition for the best prizes. Instead of being passive, get out there and pursue the men you want by initiating conversations.
3. You Are Not Making an Attempt to Be Interesting
Hoping a man will message you because you are pretty and know you are great is not enough to land a quality man online. They have to know you are great. And the only way to show this is by writing a killer profile and creating engaging emails that give these men reasons to get excited about you. Quality guys have a lot of options. So stand out from the crowd and show them why they should pick you over all the other pretty faces.
4. You Come Across as Needy
Men who are in high demand enjoy the thrill of the chase on some level. Its good to be aggressive and initiate a conversation with a man. But when you do initiate, don’t shower the guy with compliments and desperate sounding statements in the first email, even if you secretly think he is the greatest guy in the world. Show some interest, but keep it cool.
5. You Are Not Separating Yourself From the Crowd
There are millions of women online and almost all of them appear the exact same. This is because people have similar personality traits and interests on paper, even though most people have drastically different personalities. The key is to make these personality traits and interests pop off the page by avoiding clichés, providing a unique writers voice, and showing off your true personality. Don’t just show your funny, be funny. Don’t just say you love adventure; create a visualisation of your last adventure. The same goes for emailing. Avoid asking boring small talk questions that make you blend in with every other girl. If you want a guy to take notice, stand out from the masses and show you are a unique individual with plenty to offer.
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