Emily Waddell, 11.07.2018

Discover the Best Lesbian and Gay Dating Apps of 2018

Finding the best lesbian or gay dating app can be tricky. In 2018 there are so many different options for every type of relationship and every type of preference. Which is a great news for people who like lots of options, but it can be a tad overwhelming when you just want to find a date. We take a look at the best gay and lesbian dating apps and review their features, user base and their chances of success.
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The Best Lesbian Dating Apps of 2018

For a long time, online dating tended to only gear towards straight people, then eventually men seeking men options were featured and finally there came lesbian dating sites. Thankfully, in 2018 there are lots of inclusive lesbian dating apps or apps that cover the entire LGBTQI+ spectrum, that give users the option to find love and their community. 

Her - Swiping ‘yes’ or ‘no’ on prospective dates

Her is one of the best first popular lesbian dating apps on the market. It has the all-too-well-known ‘swiping’ feature that lets you accept or decline prospective partners, hence it being referred to as the ‘lesbian tinder’. After you’ve swiped ‘yes’, you can send hearts before finally matching. On your profile, you’re allowed to keep it simple or spill your life story, but the app encourages you to talk to users rather than just look at profiles. Which can be time-consuming if you’re not up for having lots of conversations that may not lead anywhere. 

  • No matchmaking functionality
  • Sign up through Facebook
  • Minimalist design

Hinge - Connect friends of friends through Facebook

Hinge, unlike most dating apps, sets up people through their mutual friends on Facebook. Instead of basing matches through interests or location, it will only match you with friends of friends so you’re never meeting up with someone too far outside your social circle. Hinge also sends you daily ‘batches’ of matches, although this is purely based on your mutual friends and never from your interests or locations. This may put off some people who either, don’t use Facebook that much (and who does these days?), or their friends don’t use it, or might find it odd to be set up with your friends second-cousin-twice removed etc.

  • No (interest based) matchmaking functionality
  • Purely uses Facebook to match users
  • More serious users, not a hookup app

Tinder - Location-based matches and casual dating

Tinder doesn’t boast that it’s for ‘casual dating’ but its reputation precedes itself as the ultimate casual dating app. You know the drill, you fill out a bio (funny or serious) and then swipe to see people near you and their info. Tinder has a huge user base, so it’s a good place to start if you’re looking for a lesbian dating app. However, it does have a big issue, for some reason Tinder doesn’t understand homosexuality and will throw random guys in your feed. Which has been a big no-no for most of the lesbian dating community, so swipe at your own discretion.

  • Location-based matching
  • No ‘female only’ matching function
  • Viewed as a casual dating app so not great for serious relationships

OkCupid - Big dating pool and interest based matches

OkCupid, like Tinder, isn’t a lesbian-specific dating app but is one that has opened up its sexual preferences filters in the past few years. It has a huge database of users thanks to this and its niche is that it gives users a percentage of how much you have in common with someone based on your answers to a questionnaire. The questionnaire is similar to OkCupid’s main questionnaire on its dating site which can be a tad vague and nonspecific. 

  • Interest-based matching
  • Big user base so more diversity but more time spent searching
  • Questionnaire is vague

EliteSingles - psychology based matching for educated singles

EliteSingles is a dating app and website for gay, straight and lesbian singles looking for long-lasting relationships but struggle with a busy work-life balance. The EliteSingles app is a great way to date on the go and it employs the same matchmaking function that is available on the website. The in-depth personality test will ensure that you get good quality matches so you don’t have to start half-hearting conversations after swiping for hours. You’ll receive 3-7 matches every day from lesbian singles who match your values, goals and interests. 

  • Algorithmic matchmaking based on a personality test
  • 3-7 matches per day from women interested in serious relationships
  • Easy functionality and sign-up
  • More diverse age range, better options for older singles 


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The Best Gay Dating Apps of 2018

Gay dating apps have typically had a bit more choice comparatively to lesbian dating apps. Gay chat apps and websites have been a bit ahead of the curve digitally, possibly due to the over-reliance of gay dating culture being centred around bars. So, there are plenty of excellent dating apps to find your special someone. Let’s take a look at some of the features of some of the most popular and their pros and cons. 

Jack’d - Location-based and POC friendly 

Jack’d is a dating app geared towards gay men looking for something a little more serious than a hookup but not much more than casual dating. Especially popular amongst POC (people of colour) Jack’d doesn’t use a swiping function, instead, you click ‘yes’ or ‘no’ on a checkerboard of profile pictures. Aside from being inclusive and diverse, there isn’t much else to Jack’d that you wouldn’t find on most gay chat apps.

  • Diverse community
  • Location-based
  • Not much functionality past chat features

Scruff - Geared towards older ‘masc’ gay men

Made famous when it sponsored RuPaul’s Drag Race for a few seasons, Scruff is well known for being the older, slightly hairier and bearier alternative to Grindr. While it has a match function based on location, Scruff is also known for being a very casual dating app. Typically, and we’re generalising here, any app that bases its unique offer on its member’s looks is not going to lead to a long-lasting relationship.

  • Primarily a hookup app
  • Users tend to be older, more ‘masculine’ looking men
  • Location and chat-based

Hornet - ‘Doing Grindr better than Grindr’

Doing Grindr better than Grindr is Hornet’s selling point, which would be great except it’s pretty similar to Grindr. Hornet’s usability is much better, with less advertising and more useful articles and videos for users. Hornet is also trying to make itself more a community platform for the gay men, giving you the option to see events and stories from other users. When it comes down to dating, it’s the same old swipe left or right option to chat and connect with users.

  • Location-based
  • Events and community outings featured
  • Minimal design

Grindr - Brief encounters and minimal chat functions

Grindr has become well known for its mildly clunky interface and the immediate nature of its users meeting up. Simply put, it’s probably not where you’re going to meet your future husband because it’s not really designed for anything other brief and quick connections. Like most gay dating apps, some users have cited the very superficial nature of Grindr and apps like Grindr - making it difficult to even casually date even with its large membership.

  • Location-based
  • Lots of adverts
  • Large membership

EliteSingles - Long-lasting relationships for busy singles 

A committed relationship is hard to find, even with an excellent dating app with great features. EliteSingles is one of those great gay dating apps, the difference is our members know what they’re looking for when they sign up, so long-lasting relationships are common. Our members also tend to be highly educated with good jobs, but with a lack of free time to pursue social activities like dating. Our app is perfect for dating on the go and is one of the few gay dating apps that also caters to older dating, rather than a typical 18-30 age range our members tend to be around 30-55 years old.


Interested in EliteSingles? Download our app or sign up to our website and try it for free today.