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How to Find Love Online: the Five Steps to Success

No matter what you're looking for, chances are you can find it on the web. But can you find love online? As it turns out, yes! All you need is the right mindset and the right tools for the job. Here, we look at the five things that can help you find online success, and illustrate how EliteSingles is the perfect tool for busy singles seeking a lasting connection. Want to find love online? This is the place to start.
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Looking for Love? Online Dating is the New Normal

As online dating sites become more and more normalized, it's no longer so strange for singles to admit that they're actively trying to meet people online.1 Yet, despite the surge in popularity, some stigma remains  - you may have heard someone insisting that dating apps are designed for one night dates, rather than lasting relationships. Happily, for those looking for a real connection, this statement is simply not true. Yes, if you're in the market for a bit of fun, there are sites and apps that can provide. But, it's also entirely possible to get serious and find love online. It all hinges on how you approach the search... 

How to Find Love Online: Five Things to Remember

1.  Putting effort into your dating profile pays off

They say that, in life, you get out what you put in, and this is certainly true of meeting people and finding love online. The person who has taken the time to create a vibrant, engaging dating profile is sure to get more attention and interaction than the person with no photo and a sparse description. But what exactly is a vibrant dating profile? In brief, a great profile demonstrates why you're someone worth spending time with. Maybe you crack a few jokes, maybe you describe your most interesting hobby - whatever you choose to write, make it something you'd like to read. And definitely, definitely add a photo: an EliteSingles study found that 52% of people wouldn't even click on a profile without a picture!

Next step: Try our in-depth look at great dating profile examples

2. You don't have to be appealing to everyone

You might think that the best way to find love online is to try and appeal to everyone, for who knows what your ideal match will be searching for? But here's the thing: if they're your ideal match, they'll be interested in you, not in some bland, mass-marketed dating profile. Don't be afraid to be your unique self online - it might not make everyone in the world swoon, but you aren't trying to date everyone in the world! If you're looking for love online, you'll have a better chance of finding an authentic connection if you focus on being yourself right from the start.

Next step: Learn how being single can build your dating confidence

3. Know your non-negotiables

Successful online dating isn't just about connecting with people who like you: it's also about finding people that you like. It can pay to be open minded here (after all, you want to meet a person, not a checklist), but that doesn't mean accepting every flirtation. In fact, if you're looking for a serious relationship, it's important to know what you will and won't compromise on. Huffington Post columnist and entrepreneur Neely Steinberg told EliteSingles that the process should be approached a bit like an executive might approach a business transaction: go into meetings with a clear idea of your end goal in mind and only take a second meeting with those who genuinely spark your interest and share your long-term goals.

Next step: Find more of Steinberg's executive dating tips here

4. Positivity can go a long way

Writing for PsychologyToday, Judith Orloff M.D. posits that positive people attract ''reciprocally nourishing interactions.'' The theory is simple: people seeking a happy, lasting relationship are most likely to look for it with someone who is themselves happy and positive. This doesn't mean that you have to fake being 100% happy all of the time; instead, when you're looking for love, it can pay to focus on the good things in your life. Instead of filling your dating profile with dislikes and turn-offs, try talking about what you do like, and reap the rewards of a positive attitude.

Next step: Try our top tips on remaining positive while dating online

5. Want to find love? Make sure to pick the right site

If you wanted to cut filet mignon, you'd be more efficient with a steak knife than a butter knife. If you wanted to paint your house, you'd be better off with a paint roller than a toothbrush. In other words, if you want to get a job done right, you need the right tools. The same is true when trying to find love online. There are a wealth of dating websites out there - and you need one tailored for your needs. If you want a long-term, lasting relationship, then avoid the hook-up sites, and look for a serious dating site full of singles who also want long-term, lasting relationships. It's that simple!

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Why Find Love Online with EliteSingles?

If you're a relationship or marriage-minded single wanting a compatible connection, then EliteSingles is the dating site you've been looking for. Our personality based-matchmaking means that we can help connect you to singles who truly suit you, while our vibrant, interesting user base is full of single Australians who are also seeking serious relationships. We're perfectly placed to help you find love online.

Register today and see who you can meet!

Watch the video to find out how the EliteSingles dating process works, or read on to find three more reasons why EliteSingles can work for you

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Personality-Based Matchmaking

EliteSingles is here to help single Australians find loving relationships. To that end, we employ an in-depth matchmaking process, designed to help our users connect to truly compatible people. When you join us, we'll bring you 3-7 matches each day (and you can search for even more using our 'Have You Met...' feature).

So how does it work? At the core of the process is our focus on personality-based connections. If you're new to our site, you'll take our insightful, free personality test when signing up. Our test analyzes your personality, along with your relationship goals, lifestyle, and partner desires, enabling us to bring you matches who we think will really suit you.

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The Ideal Dating App for Busy Singles

At EliteSingles, we try to make finding love online as smooth a process as possible. That's why we've created a site designed to streamline the search. It's all about the little details, like bringing you daily matches, so you can spend less time hunting for a potential connection, and more time messaging and dating. 

To streamline the process even further, we've also created the EliteSingles dating app. Available for iOS and for Android, our app is the ideal way to look for a partner while on the go. Update your profile on your commute, send a message between meetings, arrange a date while at the gym - our app is designed to help you find love at a time and place that suits you.

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Dynamic and Interesting Members

Love is all about connecting with the right person, and we're proud to say that EliteSingles is home to fantastic people! With the vast majority of our members aged over 35, many of our users are single professionals in the prime of their careers. These interesting singles are united by one main goal: they want lasting love. 

Of course, compatibility can't come from goals alone, so we also encourage diversity on our site. If you're looking for a particular partner, we can help with specifics like gay dating, or Jewish dating, we can help you meet single entrepreneurs or single doctors, we can connect you to others dating over 40. Whatever your tastes, we can help you find love online.