Body Language: Attraction and Its Must Dos and Definite Don’ts
The human body - our gestures and our physicality - constantly outwardly communicates, be it in a business or personal environment. Body language can arguably speak louder than verbal communication. Understanding that people are always scanning and interpreting the unspoken messages being transmitted, it is easy to realize the importance of body language, attraction and communication styles when on the dating scene.
Insight into the mechanisms of body language can empower you with the potential to read the unconscious signs of attraction and to send your own secret signals to fire up your date. For your own super powers of communication and connection, we look at both female body language, attraction, and its dialect and investigate reading men’s body language of attraction too.
How to read body language: attraction secrets unlocked
Body language is defined as the conscious and unconscious movements and postures by which attitudes and feelings are communicated1. It can be simply understood as communication without words; it’s often unintentional, and multifaceted, leaving it open for interpretation and misinterpretation and thus adding a complex layer to communication2.
Seltzer explains that 93% of communication is nonverbal, so what you say is not as important as how you show up3. You are communicating messages without even opening your mouth, and those messages are also being subconsciously ‘read’ and interpreted in a feedback channel of communication that forms between individuals in dialogue, on a date or even in the same room as each other!
When it comes to the body language of attraction, there are certain signals that one can learn to intercept and decode. Seltzer confirms, “I find there are distinct flirting techniques, messaging and body signals that both sexes display when they are interested in someone”. She goes on to explain that there are some easy signals that broadcast if he/she really likes you. It is important to understand these messages because, Seltzer expands, if these signals are not read or displayed people are left with a question of whether or not their date was interested in them, or they come away feeling there was ‘no chemistry’.
It’s important to notice these signals so that you can have confidence in pursuing things further! To give you this opportunity, we outline below the secret signals men and women use to unconsciously communicate attraction using only their body language.