Are you ready to turn the page and start a whole new chapter in your life? Jump back in the driver’s seat and prepare to take control over the direction of your life and relationships –the place is here, the time is now!
Getting a divorce is probably one of the hardest things you’ll ever go through. But one day, when you look back on it all, you may well find that it was a positive turning point in your life: with patience, optimism, and the passing of time, life after divorce can prove to be incredibly empowering and satisfying.
Of course, a huge part of moving on with your life is starting to date again. But before you even think about entering a new relationship, you have to be in the right mind frame so that you’re truly ready to love and be loved.
Life after divorce: start afresh!
Here’s how to prepare the canvas of your upcoming relationship masterpiece:
GIVE YOURSELF TIME to be alone
Would you want to date someone who is still steeped in the sadness of a previous relationship? Of course not. Good relationships happen when both people in the relationship are fully ready to give their all, so do your bit and give yourself time to detach emotionally from your previous partner.
TALK with friends and loved ones about life after divorce
Suffering alone is a slow, lonely journey; by putting your feelings into words you can blunt the emotional impact of your issues and speed up the road to recovery.1
FORGIVE yourself, forgive your ex-partner
No matter what transpired over the course of your relationship, it is the key to moving on. What if your ex-partner doesn’t deserve your forgiveness? Forgive anyway – life is sweeter when you don’t carry the burden of bitterness.
KEEP YOUR HEAD UP in the weeks and months after the divorce comes through
Bruised egos may well be typical during the post-divorce phase, but keep in mind that thousands of singles go through divorce every year – so go easy on yourself. Remember that a failed relationship is not an indicator of future relationship failures.
Dating after divorce: get out there!
When you’ve come to terms with the past and are ready to embrace life after divorce with exuberance and optimism, it’s time to get dating. Here are a few tips:
RISE FROM THE ASHES as a ravishing new you
Refresh your routines, pick up old hobbies or explore new interests. Not only will you become a more interesting person, you’ll also meet like-minded others.
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AVOID COMPARING potential new partners with your ex-partner
Sure, you should learn from past relationships, but don’t dismiss someone simply because they have some character traits that resemble your ex – you could be dismissing other redeeming qualities you’ve not yet discovered. Dating after divorce is about being open and give potential partners a chance.
You’ve come out of a failed relationship, so you want to enter a sustainable, compatible relationship, right? That takes time. You won’t always find the right person at what you deem to be the right time – so accept any set-backs with grace and resilience. Be patient and remain positive; being in the right frame of mind is the secret to dating after divorce.
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COMMEND YOURSELF for being brave
Many couples stay in unhappy relationships out of apathy, laziness or fear. Congratulate yourself on actively building the life you want to live. From all the team at EliteSingles, we wish you the very best!