The first date – 5 tips for success!
When you receive an EliteSingles match you can be sure that your personalities seem to look good on paper; that you have compatible traits or similar interests and hobbies. But whether sparks fly between you is something you can only find out by meeting in person. And this is where the fun comes in!
Take a leap of faith
If you've met someone online and you have a hunch they might be a good fit for you, it's time for that all-important first date. Unlike couples who first met each other in bars or via mutual friends, a first date between two online daters can seem unnatural, especially for people who have never used online dating before. If you're feeling nervous about an upcoming first date, rest assured that making the step from online to offline is not as scary as it may seem; a first date is simply a short meeting to test your interpersonal chemistry - if you happen to click, great, but if not, you can walk away with your head held high, knowing that you gave it a chance. If you feel like you connect with someone really well online but fail to gather the courage to meet in person you’re really shooting yourself in the foot- you need to take that little leap of faith and sidle out of your comfort zone in order to reap the benefits.
5 tips to first date success
1. Have a simple plan
If you’re the one that instigated the meeting, make a plan. A short meeting, like a coffee date or a walk in the park usually suits well for a first date – relaxed and casual, but ample time to gauge whether you’re on the same wavelength.
2. Know what you’re looking for in a partner
Before you meet someone for the first time take a moment to reflect on your past relationships and think about the factors that are really important to you in another partner. Even if your date seems to be a lovely person, there is no point continuing on with a relationship if they lack the key things you are looking for.
3. Be yourself!
Make an effort to look nice and be polite, but take your mum's advice and don’t try too hard to impress by being someone you're not. EliteSingles members are looking for a long-term commitment, so the person you are on a first date with needs to get a feeling for the authentic you. Most people can sense when someone is faking it – be comfortable with who you are and trust that the right person will recognise what you bring to a relationship.
4. Your body talks
We all tend to concentrate on the words coming from our mouths while forgetting that body language speaks tenfold. If you are enjoying the date, let your partner know by adopting a more forward posture and using slightly animated speech.
5. Be honest with yourself – and your date
If you are interested in a second date, tell your partner that you had a nice time and would like to see them again –don’t let them leaving guessing as to whether the date went well. On the other side of the coin, if you realised the person wasn’t the one for you, show some respect and avoid making empty promises; sentences like ‘I might call you on the weekend’ might seem polite at the time, but will only cause hurt when you don’t follow through.
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